Does God Care Who You Marry?
For the singles out there (including myself), it might be important to find out if God has a standard for who you marry. Does He really care? Let’s find out what the Bible says. I have some examples below:
- We learn from the book of Genesis that Abraham and Isaac both had standards for the wives they wanted their sons to marry. Specifically, they wanted them to marry a virgin from their own people.
- In Leviticus 21, God sets forth a standard for priests and high priests on who they should marry. They had to marry virgins from their own people – not widows or divorced from their husbands.
- In I Kings 11, we learn that Solomon was led astray by marrying women who did not worship the one True God.
- In Ezra 9 and 10, we see that the people of God were punished for marrying those who worshipped gods other than the one True God. This caused issues in their day.
- In I Corinthians 7, Paul said not to be unequally yoked to believers.
- Christ is coming back to marry a bride who is “without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless.” (Ephesians 5:27)
We can see from all these examples – from Genesis to the end of the Bible that God wants us to have standards for who we marry.
I know some people who think you can marry whoever you want to and God will just “work it out”. Well, I have seen the faith of people and even ministries destroyed over this kind of logic. Proverbs 14:12 says, “There is a way that appears to be right, but in the end it leads to death.” Some men or women think they can marry someone and then “convert” them. This is far from the truth and has no Bible to support it. If God has a standard throughout His Word, should we not adhere to that standard?
We should seek God with prayer, fasting, and counsel from like-minded believers and our church Leadership before we even consider someone as a candidate for marriage.
There is a verse in the Song of Solomon which says, “Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you by the gazelles and by the does of the field: Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires.” – (Song of Solomon 2:7). This verse is actually found Three times in the Song of Solomon.
What does this verse mean? We are not to arouse or awaken love until it is the right time. The charge for this is made by the gazelles and does of the field. These are fast animals. God is trying to tell us that the passions and desires that men and women have towards each other are very fast and can get out of control quickly.
We want to make sure we wait for the right one before we act because our passions and desires can take us places we may not should go.
Let’s wait for the right one. Let’s let God awaken the Love within us instead of awakening it ourselves. Marriage is a FOREVER commitment, and we should spend tremendous time preparing ourselves to be committed to that one person forever. Let’s not take it lightly, and let’s use God’s standards in who we marry.